Finding a pet-friendly apartment

Dog Lady: In this case, negotiation is the better part of valor. During an economic crisis, there are bargains and deals out there. You must be savvy and strategic to secure them. If you find a “pet friendly” apartment you like, you are wise to present yourself as the finest tenant any landlord could hope to house. Dress nicely. Instead of complaining about the weight limitation and bad mouthing smaller dogs, be upbeat and promise the landlord your dog is under your control and will behave suitably in the community. Meet every “No” with a polite “What if?”

Usually, the weight limitation reflects a landlord’s fear that a large dog will cause more wear and tear on the unit. Propose a codicil in the lease so your landlord retains the right to inspect the apartment on a monthly basis and you will pay immediately for any dog damage. Or offer to pay a higher security deposit. Introduce your pet to the proprietor. And present a couple of references from people who know your dog, attesting to her disposition and training.

In essence, do not be passive or defensive in your search. Be proactive and positive. Rentals banning pets and those that restrict weights are irksome but not insurmountable roadblocks.

Reader: I have a 9-year-old, 85-pound husky mix. She is a great dog and is very friendly with people. However, some dogs she gets along with and some she doesn’t. It’s hard to tell, so I try to avoid letting her come into contact with other dogs — especially smaller dogs — for fear of them fighting and her hurting the smaller dogs.

I recently started dating a woman who has a 16-yr-old beagle and a 3-year-old Schnoodle (Schnauzer/poodle). It’s really important to me that these dogs get along so our relationship can grow. What is a good way for me to introduce my dog to her dogs so they can get to know each other and hopefully get along with each other without a potential problem?

Dog Lady: What a stand-up guy. For you to ask this question and care about introducing the dogs in the right way shows you consider the human evolution of this relationship in a mature, thoughtful way. She’s a lucky gal. So is your dog.

As the connection solidifies between the two of you, the tolerance among all the dogs will gradually evolve. You can’t force anything. Do not introduce the pets indoors on anybody’s turf, but take them on a fun long walk to nowhere or to a neutral park. Plan the meeting for an afternoon that’s all about the dogs instead of tacking on their socializing to a date between you and your lady friend.

Let the dogs freely sniff each other and make sure each dog has equal leashed — or unleashed — status. Keep handfuls of tiny treats handy. Liberally reward the dogs for ignoring each other, which is the surest sign they are getting along just fine.

If you see any hint of nasty business, you or she should distract the offender by ordering a time-out — a sit-and-stay exercise will usually do the trick. Do not presume to discipline her dogs. After this first meeting, keep up the momentum by taking the dogs for more walks and to the park together.

Of course, it is always wise to proceed with caution before becoming seriously involved. Likewise, you should enjoy many casual dog dates in the outdoors before allowing the pets to spend the night together.